self esteem boosters

To the anonymous reader who says what to do when they look at themselves in the mirror and hate themselves: I just want to let you know that even though I don’t know what you look like or are like i know that you are beautififul. I’m a 22 year old girl who struggled with major self esteem issues, I used to look in the mirror and cry at the mere thought of how ugly I thought I was! And that’s not true! We all are beautiful in our own way, and sometimes it’s hard to tell yourself that you love yourself but it’s that effort that will help you in your own way. I once read that you will be with yourself the rest of your life so why not begin to be comfortable in your own skin. It won’t be easy but it’s definitely possible and once you realize how great you are, you will know that you are worth it! Think highly of yourself because you deserve it!  

You are beautiful right now at your current/starting/during/maintaining weight, and you’ll be beautiful when you’re at your goal weight. You are beautiful when you’re working out, and you are beautiful right after you shower. You are beautiful in shorts, and you are beautiful in yoga pants. You are beautiful when you are wearing make up, and you are beautiful when you are fresh faced. You are beautiful when your nails are painted, and you are beautiful when they are bare. You are beautiful in a dress, and you are beautiful in jeans. You are beautiful when you’re eating fruits and veggies, and you are beautiful when you’re eating Oreos and Doritos. You are beautiful when you’re happy, and you are beautiful when you are sad. You are beautiful when your hair is done, and you are beautiful when it’s natural. You are beautiful when you are wearing jewelry and you are beautiful when you are not. You are beautiful when someone is reminding you, and you are beautiful when no one is. You are beautiful this November, you were beautiful last November, and you will be beautiful next November. You are ALWAYS beautiful - no matter what.

I’m a little nervous about submitting, but I guess I’m doing the best I can! I seem to waver between lots of self confidence and feeling awful about myself, but I admit, feeling awful about myself has been the usual for me. 

I have been slightly overweight my whole life, even when I was playing three sports and really in shape. I still had fat on me. I’m a naturally curvaceous person I guess— and I also love food. Kids called me fat or “lard ass” in school, and my sister and my dad used to laugh about how fat I was. If my dad caught me eating as a little kid, I would get in trouble. Things weren’t great when I was a kid, but I still managed to be happy. 

As I got older, due to family issues and other stuff, I got really depressed. I started cutting in high school. When I got to college, things got really really bad. I was dating a guy who treated me super crappy but I admit I didn’t have the self esteem to get out of the relationship. We were dating for four years and he would talk about my weight, how he wanted me to dress sexier, and all this stupid crap. 

I finally dumped him but only after he told me he wanted to have an “open relationship” because he said I was getting too fat and he had to think about other girls and watch porn because he wasn’t as attracted to me anymore. I got super depressed because I just realized how bad my self esteem was that I couldn’t even respect myself to date a man who treated me right, in addition to the fact that my parents seemed to think I was a total failure, even though I went to a top school in the USA and was doing pretty well. Around this time I met my current boyfriend, and he did really help with repairing my self esteem. He taught me not to accept bad treatment from anyone and that I shouldn’t just “let things go” so I didn’t create “drama.” He said I should demand respect from people I interacted with daily. 

I didn’t always do that, though. End of college, I fell into a group of friends that seemed really awesome at first, but as time went on, things just got more and more negative. My best friend from high school also started hanging out with us, even though she didn’t go to our school, and she completely turned on me. I gained about 40 pounds my senior year of college because of a medication I had to be on because of a serious illness, and she took the opportunity to constantly try to compete with me in terms of looks and body, and finally, she outright called me fat once at a friend’s graduation party. I didn’t make a big deal of it at the time but it really got to me since she used to be my best friend.

Her behavior continued for almost a year… She would do things like comment on a picture of me in a bikini (where I actually looked thin for once!) and said “This looks photoshopped” and then claimed it was a “joke.” Her life mission seemed to be to make me feel bad while boosting herself up. I confronted her once, but she flipped out at me and went behind my back and told all of my college friends that I had said horrible things to her, when actually it was the opposite!

Finally, sometime in the past few months, I decided that, if my so called college friends were going to take her side even though I had repeated evidence that she was being horrible to me, I didn’t care if they were my friends anymore. I also blocked this girl’s phone number and gchat so she would stop calling, texting, and IMing me. I’m now in graduate school doing what I love and I have new friends who never treat me with anything but respect. 

But hell, I am a special, important person. I might have parts of my body that I don’t like, and sure, I want to be able to run faster and fit into a smaller dress size, but I’m still a beautiful person, and I will never let anyone tell me otherwise. 

Did you read that? Good. Read it again. Stop.

Just look at the words. Do you get the point?

You can change. You don’t have to wear bathing suits that cover your stomach for the rest of your life. You don’t have to have people telling you that you need to eat a Big Mac for the rest of your life. You don’t have to get winded from walking up the stairs for the rest of your life. You don’t have to feel fragile and weak for the rest of your life. You don’t have to see the same number on the scale for the rest of your life. You don’t have to wake up and feel shitty about yourself every morning for the rest of your life. 

Hard work. Exercise. Eat when you’re hungry. Eat good foods. Eat foods that make your body feel good. Go on a run. Look up POP Pilates videos on youtube. Look up any kind of exercise videos on youtube. Take a day, or a few days, and get rid of all that crappy food in your house. Use the internet. Use myfitnesspal. Make a fitblr. Be committed. Be determined. Make a change. Change.

Never think another negative thought again. 

Did you read that? Read it again. Fill your head with thoughts of how awesome you are. How great, how lovely, how funny, how adorable, how fantastic, how beautiful, how crazy, how love-able, how unique, how fucking amazing you are.  

Be healthy. Don’t do it for that guy you’ve been admiring from afar. Don’t do it because your doctor told you to. Don’t do it because I’m telling you to. Do it so you can run around and play games with your grandkids. Do it so you have a lower risk of cancer. Do it so you can be the best version of yourself. Do it so you can wake up every morning with a smile on your face because you’re happy.

Be happy (: Do things that make you happy. Surround yourself with people that make you happy. BE HAPPY. Try. Change. 

See the world as amazing as it is. Help others. Show love, spread kindness. Change. Be better than you were yesterday. 

Follow these blogs:

• www.boostyouresteem.tumblr.com 
• www.stophatingyourbody.tumblr.com
• www.overcomethehate.tumblr.com
• www.blogilates.tumblr.com
• www.believe-toachieve.tumblr.com
• www.healthystuff.tumblr.com
• www.happyhealthyhopeful.tumblr.com

follow me, I’ll be healthy and positive 110% of the time. Read this once, read it a million times. Read it until you get it drilled into your head. You can change. You just have to want to. You have to try. I believe in you. I’m always here for you. Do your best. Be your best <3

To the person with social anxiety. I suffer with that myself. For the last few years, I have had one close friend. Occasionally a boyfriend.  But with those gone, the 9 or so months have been hard and I’ve really retreated into my house. I go to work, school, I come home and do nothing.  But I’m working hard on making friends, keeping friends, and loosing my anxiety.

It’s never too late. Ever ever ever. 

to anon who considers to sell yourself,like this blog owner said,students are supposed to be broke. when i was a college student,i was broke as hell.at one time i only got 50cents to survive for a week. what i did was,instead of taking the bus i walked,i didnt wear makeup since they are expensive,i wore the same clothes for 4 years,i ate food that costed me only $1 per day,i painted shoes and sell them to get more money. now i got my degree,i work and earn a lot. dont ruin urself. be strong.