Anonymous asked: I know this sounds pathetic, but I just feel insanely unattractive when I see pictures of really attractive women and at times jealous even. I get into this cycle of self pity and I always think that their lives are inherently better than mine. Do you have any advice on how I could change my attitude?
Ugh, welcome to womanhood! Actually, welcome to the human race. I do this too. I see a pretty, usually thin, well dressed girl my age and I’m like, ‘wow, my life sucks and hers is awesome and she’s probably rich and staying in that nice hotel with a great boyfriend and career and travels all the time and wahwahwah.’ But for all I know, she searched for her shoes online to get them half off, or her great purse is a knockoff, or her jeans are from TJMaxx. She might be a student, or a waitress, or a genius, or unemployed. I have no idea.
I have to remind myself of this every time I see this people. You can dress yourself up and strut through the streets and I promise, people are doing it to you too. They think you’ve got money and hot friends and a perfect, fabulous life, but you know that isn’t true. Even if they do have a fancy life, it doesn’t matter and it doesn’t make yours worse.
Remind yourself that you know nothing about that woman, first of all. Then, say fuck it, who cares even if she is the Queen of France, I have to focus on me. Think about your career or studies or big dreams and indulge in those. You’re a fabulous woman with a beautiful life, embrace that and shine it out. If your life isn’t where you want it to be, figure out what you want to do to change that.
To put it simply instead of this long rambling thing, be really selfish, and be really fucking happy about it.