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I know that right now it feels like nothing is ever going to get better, but I hope you give the world the opportunity to prove you wrong. Because, the world certainly doesn’t owe you anything, and it will punch you in the face a lot, but it’s also full of reasons to live (like late-night laughter, greasy diner breakfasts, quiet walks, starry nights, marathoning tv shows, a comfy bed, traveling the world with a backpack and barely any cash, good coffee, better books, and best friends).

You might not have found your reason yet, but I hope you give yourself the chance to. You might not feel like you deserve anything, but you deserve that - that one chance to find something worth living for every single day. So maybe right now, your reason to live is to find or create a better reason to live, and that’s okay. That’s beautiful too.

You might not feel like you belong in the world anymore, but people want you here. We want you here. We want to see what you can do. We want to see you create a wonderful life, because without you, the world has one less beautiful thing to live for.

Anonymous asked: I often think about death and suicide. I just kind of play out the scenario in my head. Don't get me wrong, I have no intention of going through it, but ever since I went through some difficult stuff, I've just been thinking that this is the best option. Is this normal?

Lot’s of people think about death. Actually, everyone thinks about death because we are inherently mortal, and that’s scary. There’s nothing wrong with thinking about it, but planning how you would kill yourself or thinking of suicide as a way out is a very serious problem that needs professional help.

Anonymous asked: While alone at work, I was rehearsing what I was going to write on my suicide note as if I was trying to write an essay. It was then that I thought "maybe it's time for me to seek some help". I can't afford help and my friends are all busy with college/university. I don't want to bother them. Should I just go about this alone?

Yes, it is time to seek help and it’s a huge step to notice this. Life changingly huge. Lots of people never ever get to this point, so you need to acknowledge this strength and courage. Your friends will care. Yes, they’re busy, but it doesn’t matter. You’re their friend and they want to help and be there for you, but professional help is the best. Free clinics have mental help professionals there or can refer you to free professionals. There are actual social work careers based entirely off providing free mental care to the community, you just have to search the phone book or yellow pages in your area. If you have any type of insurance, go see your primary doctor and they will either treat you themselves or refer you to someone your insurance also covers. There is always help.

Call 1-800-273-TALK or chat at this website http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Check this workout http://www.helpguide.org/mental/suicide_help.htm

“Feeling suicidal is not a character defect, and it doesn’t mean that you are crazy, or weak, or flawed. It only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now.”

Anonymous asked: Do you think that suicide is selfish?

I think it’s just incredibly crushing for everyone left behind. It’s a personal problem, but it ends up having the ripple effect and irreparably changing everyone’s lives around you. So yeah, I think you need to think of more than yourself. I hear, ‘they won’t miss me, they’ll get over it,’ all the time and it’s not true. You’re ending your life and affecting others. People involved will spend the rest of their lives thinking about it. Some will become depressed. Some will move on slowly. But no one will ever forget it. They’ll all carry it with them.

Anonymous asked: I can't stop thinking about killing myself. Even though I finally found something to live for, I get so overwhelmed by everything else. I've already been to a psychiatrist and counselor and it doesn't help; I can't tell them because they'll put me in the hospital. I just keep thinking about how all I have to do is swallow some pills & cut my wrist & it will be over. I won't be depressed. No one will be bothered by me. They'll be sad at first maybe, but they'll get over it and be happier.

Suicidal thoughts don’t automatically land you in an institution/hospital, and if they do, it’s for your own safety even if you don’t want to accept that.

Sure, you won’t be depressed anymore, but you won’t be anything. You won’t be happy. It isn’t release. It isn’t peace. It isn’t anything. Death isn’t a beautiful retreat. It’s nothingness. It’s just the end. It isn’t living your life and working your way out of depression and seeing the beautiful world and moving away and getting a kickass job and a degree and an awesome husband/wife/boatload of kids and living life to the fullest, then dying and meeting the end, it’s just cutting things off early. It’s robbing yourself of all the world has to offer and robbing the world of all you have to offer.

And do not think for one second people will be briefly sad, then get over it. It will follow them every single day of their life. It will haunt them. It kills some people. If you think you’re going to get off easy, you aren’t. I can tell you right now they will be angry and crushed and depressed. Some may never climb back out of that. They will never be the same. If that’s your reasoning for killing yourself, you are way off. It’s happened to me and it is something I will never, ever in my life get over. I’ll carry it with me for the rest of my life.

There are billions of reasons not to cut your life short. It’s huge and expansive and full of impossible possibilities in front of you. Here’s 100 reasons. Why not add another hundred?