self esteem boosters (I disagree with you, as I replied “according to your logic, parenting is to blame. You should encourage personal responsibility, not self pity.” Historically, any and every Society has always had and will always have beauty requirements. Whether they be sickening or not, is a matter of opinion. We all have different body types, so no matter what body type you put on a magazine someone will disagree. First, you should encourage better parenting instead. Parents who are informed about diet, health and life in general. Parents should be explaining to their children that #1 the health defects and all the clinic meetings of these models, #2 the fact that boys don’t prefer Gemma Ward’s body to an average girl’s body. Because psychologically and genetically they don’t. It’s all a biology lesson about what men are attracted to in a mate. Secondly, instead of blaming society for anything and trying eliminate competition. You should encourage personal responsibility. It is my responsibility not to be obese because not only obesity unhealthy and unattractive (I am only stating what everybody else is thinking), it is costly. If I end up in the hospital, my parents have to pay the bills. The same thing goes for anorexia and other eating disorders. I don’t understand. You’re giving advice to boost self esteem. Self pity is not a good way to encourage that, and don’t tell me I’m wrong because I work out intensely and get whatever I want. A good body is not unattainable. I am a living breathing unairbrushed example. But for the record, competition will always be there. You can’t eliminate it because there will always be women like Megan Fox. It’s not a matter of who’s more beautiful anyway; it’s a matter of personality. Models aren’t attractive just for their muscles and bones and boobies, they’re attractive for the look they’re giving the camera.)

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notmissambition-deactivated2012 asked: I disagree with you, as I replied "according to your logic, parenting is to blame. You should encourage personal responsibility, not self pity." Historically, any and every Society has always had and will always have beauty requirements. Whether they be sickening or not, is a matter of opinion. We all have different body types, so no matter what body type you put on a magazine someone will disagree.

First, you should encourage better parenting instead. Parents who are informed about diet, health and life in general. Parents should be explaining to their children that #1 the health defects and all the clinic meetings of these models, #2 the fact that boys don't prefer Gemma Ward's body to an average girl's body. Because psychologically and genetically they don't. It's all a biology lesson about what men are attracted to in a mate.

Secondly, instead of blaming society for anything and trying eliminate competition. You should encourage personal responsibility. It is my responsibility not to be obese because not only obesity unhealthy and unattractive (I am only stating what everybody else is thinking), it is costly. If I end up in the hospital, my parents have to pay the bills. The same thing goes for anorexia and other eating disorders.

I don't understand. You're giving advice to boost self esteem. Self pity is not a good way to encourage that, and don't tell me I'm wrong because I work out intensely and get whatever I want. A good body is not unattainable. I am a living breathing unairbrushed example. But for the record, competition will always be there. You can't eliminate it because there will always be women like Megan Fox. It's not a matter of who's more beautiful anyway; it's a matter of personality. Models aren't attractive just for their muscles and bones and boobies, they're attractive for the look they're giving the camera.

I never said that parents are to blame, but in fact, they are. Whether it’s intentional or not, when you follow what the media is telling you - that a size two is what you should be, that you should have flawless, photoshopped skin - then you’re passing those insecurities down to your children.

Parents should be teaching their children about health and that all bodies are beautiful, but most don’t, and then they’re exposed to thousands of media messages a day telling them what they have to look like to be beautiful.

I’m aware of what a male is genetically attracted to, and it is the typical model body, actually. Genetically, men want sloped hips for child bearing, flat stomachs, size C breasts, flushed cheeks, big eyes, and full lips. There have been various studies that confirm this, and there’s a reason ads continue to run this way. Also, I disagree with the idea that models aren’t attractive for their bodies, but for the look they’re giving the camera. They’re modeling clothes, or the lack thereof, and young men and women are focused on their bodies. Regardless, the fact that their unrealistic proportions are used for all types of billboards, commercials, and fashion ads makes people think that is the way they’re supposed to look, even though all of these pictures are altered.

Your idea of competition is yours personally. I never encourage obesity, I encourage healthy living. If you think you need to be more attractive and thinner than the girl trying to get into the same college as you, then you’re obviously not living a balanced life either. If you want your goals to be worth something, you reach them from your hard work and perseverance, not your size two pants.