Anonymous asked: I'm not necessary asking for advice, I just really want to confess this: I'm not ready for sex. I love porn and I constantly think about sex but I'm not ready to actually have it. I'm not even ready to make out, despite having been in a relationship for a few years now. Sometimes I wonder if I'd be ready for sex by now if my boyfriend hadn't pressured me into letting him touch me when I wasn't ready 3 years ago.
It’s okay to not be ready! There’s no age at which you’re “supposed” to be ready. It’s okay to watch porn or have fantasies or pleasure yourself but not want sex. There’s nothing wrong with that. There is something wrong with your boyfriend pressuring you (I hope you dumped that jackass) but unfortunately, now you have to deal with that. If you feel uncomfortable around people or the idea of someone touching you intimately, you might want to talk to a professional. Don’t push yourself. There’s nothing wrong with not being ready for sex and you don’t need to see a professional so that you can have sex right now, but you should work on being comfortable with other people and eventually, intimate relationships.