Anonymous asked: My Mom keeps talking about how much weight she's lost or gained & though I try & be nice & listen to her it gets annoying eventually & when I try to nicely tell her that it's great but i don't want to hear it constantly she gets all defensive on how she's lonely & has no one to talk to. she doesn't even try hard enough to meet people her own age I don't know what else to do because she just continues to get defensive!
Yeah parents definitely get lonely. I mean the made you, raised you, watched you grow into someone close to their maturity level (you’re both adults or almost adults) and they want to bond with you. I’m extremely close with my mother, like Gilmore Girl level close, and I love it. You don’t have to be her best friend, but you can listen to what she has to say. I bet if you put yourself in her shoes, you’d realize that you talk about a lot of crap she does not care about, but she listens.
Adults give up a lot for a family. They sacrifice everything, and one of those things is friendship. She probably lost a lot of her friends because you and a stable life for you was her number one priority. As you get older, it’s harder to make friends. It isn’t like, ‘hey we both like harry potter!’ it’s like ‘hey, we work together, we can probably get along here well enough.’
You don’t have to be involved in finances or her love life or ‘serious grown up things’ but she did, you know, give you your lifeblood, so you can stand to lend an ear sometimes.