Anonymous asked: I'm a sophomore. I'm still friends with some of my middle school friends, and lately my two best middle school friends have been worrying me. By guy friend started having sex w/ his gf and is now cheating on her, and we've been drifting. He talks about how he "doesn't understand why we don't talk" but never bothers to contact me or tell me what's going on. And my other best friend, a girl, started to drink alcohol. I think it's b/c of her bf who is a senior, but I'm worried... We're only 15/16.
Yes that is wrong, but drinking and even his relationship really isn’t your business. I understand that you’re worried, but you can’t make people do anything. You can tell them you’re concerned and that you might not be able to maintain a friendship with people who are doing these things, but it’s ultimately up to them to do what they want.
As for the drifting, remember that it’s a two way street! If you’re calling and texting and making plans and he’s blowing you off, that’s one thing, otherwise, you both need to put in the effort. Also, he might not be telling you t hings because he thinks you’ll be disappointed or you’ll judge him. If you don’t support it or want to hear about it, that’s fine, but understand that means less contact.
Do what is best for your life. If you don’t want to be around that, then think about choosing different friends.
