self esteem boosters (I usually try to think that within each conflict, no single side is at fault. That being said, I occassionally get some flack from people whom I’m not particularly on friendly terms with even though I did nothing (consciously, at least) to instigate such behavior. While this doesn’t lower my self esteem, it bother me because I’d like to correct the problem if I had some part in creating the conflict. I happen to have a reputation for being aloof and distant but I don’t mean any harm by it. Help?)

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Anonymous asked: I usually try to think that within each conflict, no single side is at fault. That being said, I occassionally get some flack from people whom I'm not particularly on friendly terms with even though I did nothing (consciously, at least) to instigate such behavior. While this doesn't lower my self esteem, it bother me because I'd like to correct the problem if I had some part in creating the conflict. I happen to have a reputation for being aloof and distant but I don't mean any harm by it. Help?

It’s true that usually one single side isn’t at fault. Conflicts are caused by both or all parties. Not everything needs to be talked to death and ‘fixed’ but if you’re feeling guilty or upset by a conflict, just bring it up. Explain that you didn’t mean to upset anybody and you’d just like to solve the situation.