May 2013
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Anonymous asked: I don't get out around people much due to anxiety issues. & when I do, I find everything that's funny but not hysterically funny just that. hysterically funny. I sometimes get to the point where I can't stop laughing I'm still giggling while trying to stop or I'll sit silently laughing. It's so embarrassing because I may look 'happy' outside but inside...
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Anonymous asked: I cut for a couple years & stopped when my depression improved. Now it's worse & I want to cut again. But I'm also terrified of someone finding out because they've said I will have to go to the hospital. It frustrates me & makes me want to cut more and I feel like I don't have an outlet for emotions, therapy isn't helping.
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I bet if we asked random people off the street - skinny, fat, old, young - if they ate all their fruits & veggies and drank 64 oz of water today, 99% would say no. Maybe then we could stop exclusively using fat people as representations of an unhealthy nation.
Anonymous asked: Do you usually answer all of the questions you get? You're doing a fantastic job and I love your dedication to your blog. Keep it up <3
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Anonymous asked: hey, sorry for the awkward question. i'm technically a totally straight woman but i've discovered that i can turn myself on by imagining a sexy woman (seducing a man). i feel really weird because i can't say i've ever been attracted to anyone of the same sex. is that normal that what i imagine in order to get turned on is something completely different than my "real"...
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Anonymous asked: I have a hard time believing a guy could like me because I hate myself. I'm really insecure about sex because I feel fat; I always had it in the dark w my ex. There's a new guy I'm interested in & he says he likes me but idk how I can make myself believe him, and I'm nervous about getting physical bc I've gained about 10lbs since the last time he saw me & I'm...
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Anonymous asked: (I'm glad you and your loved ones are okay!) I've come to ask you for advice... My ex cheated on me, then proceeded to blame me for feeling bad about it, and ultimately left me (again blaming me for the break-up) only to get together with the person he cheated on me with. That person, sadly, I had also considered my friend. I didn't stop it when I should've because I...
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Summer is coming! Time to get a beach body!
Take your body to the beach
Sit it on the beach
Apply lots of sunscreen to your ultimate beach body
And don’t forget to get the right bathing suit for your body!
Find something you like (e.g. board shorts, bikini, one piece, burka)
Put it on your body
Will it stay in place when you need to kick someone’s ass for discussing appropriate suits for different bodies/body shaming on...
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celloing replied to your photo: Flourless Oatmeal Chocolate Chip Cookies (made…
just to specify: little t means teaspoon and big T means tablespoon?
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PEOPLE DO NOT FALL IN LOVE WITH THE SIZE OF YOUR WAIST, THE GAP BETWEEN YOUR THIGHS, OR THE SHARPNESS OF YOUR COLLARBONES.
They fall in love with your soul, your laugh, and the way your hair is always sticking up on one side. They fall in love with the way you hold one of their hands with both of yours, how tightly you hug them, and the way you look when you’re dancing. They fall in love...
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Anonymous asked: This isn't a question, I just wanted to share that not only did I eat half an easter egg earlier, I didn't immediately start hating myself and feeling anxious and try to burn it off, or not eat for the rest of the day. And I mostly feel okay with this. And I just felt like I needed to tell somebody.
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Anonymous asked: I've never had any positive male models in my life & now as an adult I'd like to start dating & being friends with males but I honestly have no clue what to do. My brothers are no help because I know them & therefore can relax. If they're males I don't know, I'm at a loss. I don't understand why it's so hard, they're human too but my brain likes...
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Anonymous asked: On my personal blog sometimes I like to post TTs, though I keep my bra on. If my mother knew she'd tell me that it's wrong and that I'm allowing men to sexually objectify me. Is what I'm doing really that wrong? On the one hand I feel like it's okay, that it's my body, on the other hand I'm afraid of seeming like a slut.
Anonymous asked: This is probably a long shot but, can you recommend any fashion blogs geared toward older women (and/or moms) who are plus sized? I'm trying to help my mom see that you can wear awesome clothes and not simply black all the the time (til she loses weight) & look great when you're 'older'. Thanks!
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Anonymous asked: I was planning on losing some weight & getting fit before the guy I like came home for the summer. I ended up gaining 10lbs since the last time he saw me and now I’m afraid he won’t like how I look anymore.
Fuck that guy. Not literally though. More like, that guy should fuck off if he gives a shit about your weight. What I’m guessing is that it’s you who thinks...
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Anonymous asked: I had a massive argument with a close friend, I don't really want to rekindle the friendship because it was a very toxic friendship but I decided to cut all ties and just leave it alone. However she seems to want to continue it and writes stuff about me and my family on her blog. How do I stop myself from going onto her blog and checking? Because I feel like I HAVE to check it to see what she...
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Anonymous asked: I noticed that you said that you meditate. How do you make it a regular thing? I either always keep forgetting or procrastinating, and my mind is always busy and chatty when I do it.
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Anonymous asked: Odd problem. I've never done illegal drugs...but I pretended I did (on Facebook) because I was trying to fit in. Pathetic, I know. I deleted the account because it had jokes about being high and such but I'm terrified a future employer could still find it...I know it was stupid & wrong to lie but I really haven't done anything illegal, but now I can't prove it if someone...
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Anonymous asked: I was planning on losing some weight & getting fit before the guy I like came home for the summer. I ended up gaining 10lbs since the last time he saw me and now I'm afraid he won't like how I look anymore.
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Anonymous asked: For the first time in a few years I'm in an unofficial relationship. But I've been under the impression for so long that boys don't like, aren't attracted to me, that I keep feeling afraid that he's going to look at me at some point and realize I'm not as great as he though. I'm afraid he won't want to be around me anymore. And I'm so inexperienced that...
blainatural asked: i already complemented you some time ago but i need to say this again. you are awesome and so inspirational. you write beautiful things and taking your time to help people is such a beautiful thing to do. you are a beautiful person :)
April 2013
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wenndusagst submitted: Just try!
To the anonymous reader who says what to do when they look at themselves in the mirror and hate themselves: I just want to let you know that even though I don’t know what you look like or are like i know that you are beautififul. I’m a 22 year old girl who struggled with major self esteem issues, I used to look in the mirror and cry at the mere thought of how ugly I thought I was! And...
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Anonymous asked: I tried following a bunch of self esteem and self love tumblrs to try to help me love myself but seeing stuff from them just makes me cry. I can't do it at all. I've tried all the tips like coming up with lists about what you like about yourself and telling yourself that you love yourself in the mirror and all of that and it just makes me hate myself more. What do I do?
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It’s okay to be angry and sad and cry, rage, trash your room, break everything, lose all faith in humanity for a day, and try to forget the world even exists.
But then you have to make the conscious decision to be better than these people, and to prove that you are stronger than any fear they try to instill. Send your love and open your hearts to the victims, show your gratitude for those...
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Thank you all for your messages, I appreciate your concern. I’m okay and all my family members who were running are okay. Everyone is together.
You can still track runners. Stay inside and away from trash cans. Text, don’t call. If you’re in the Boston area, please donate blood!
If you believe in prayer, please send them to Boston. If you don’t, we can still use all the...
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Anonymous asked: I have a huge problem opening up to people. I don't feel close to any of my friends or my family and it's really starting to hurt me. I truly don't even know how to express my emotions and every time I have tried, I start to cry and feel like an idiot. I've never been able to have a romantic relationship for this reason and I'm scared it will end up ruining my life. Any...
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Anonymous asked: So I had this huge fight with my fiance's mother on the phone last night because she thinks there's no such thing as rape in marriage. And that rape victims are just lying, because they want attention. This was after I told her I was going to volunteer at a crisis center. So she sent me a link about "when rape is a gift". Fortunately, it's blocked on my campus. I just need...
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Anonymous asked: (sex blog anon) So it's not weird to write or draw or read stuff like that? How do I explain it if someone finds out? My family would just be like okay you're off to the nunnery don't pack the vibrator. I know I'm not 'slutty', I guess that was the wrong word, I just feel weird but I also feel like I should be able to express that side of myself even if society thinks...
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Skinny girls have problems too
Thin privilege is a super shitty thing that needs to be acknowledged. But don’t forget that skinny girls are people, too! Even the ones who have been thin for their entire lives. And some of them:
Have eating disorders even if you think they look naturally thin and not ‘anorexic looking’ or emaciated.
Spend hours on the treadmill every day desperately trying to maintain their...
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Anonymous asked: Is it weird to want to make a sex blog? I think it's a lovely thing but at the same time I feel kinda guilty and dirty for wanting to look at pics of it/read/write/draw anything sexy. I like erotic lit but I feel too guilty to enjoy it. I feel like if anyone found out they'd think I'm slutty.
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Anonymous asked: Is there any way possible I could stop worrying about grades so much? Last semester, I passed with stellar grades, but this semester isn't the greatest and I know my grades are going to take a bit of a dive. I know grades are important, but I'm at the point where I'm crying constantly because of them. Thank you so much dear, you are the wind beneath my wings <3
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Anonymous asked: What's your view on Buddhism?
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How to stop hating yourself and feel awesome and...
Look at yourself naked in the mirror. No, don’t push your boobs up. Okay, do it once. Gravity defying! Now let them go and really look at your hot-ass self. Shake. Do an embarrassing dance. If you live alone or are home alone, go do normal things naked. Suddenly you feel sexier! Just close the blinds.
Dress for yourself, from your underwear to your jacket. If you don’t like it, why are you...
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Anonymous asked: How does one become at peace with themselves?
Anonymous asked: I've been trying to be body positive & liking myself but it's not working. I've tried so many things, changing my hair, my clothes, my mindset, ignoring what people think etc. It's not working. I still feel like everything I wear looks like crap, my hair looks stupid, etc. I feel dirty & gross & I can't tell what I actually look like anymore. I'm just so...
Anonymous asked: I fell out with a girl and then suggested that we just leave each other alone and move on. But she decided that she didn't like that idea and has been writing nasty stuff about me online and has turned a friend of mine against me. They both shout stuff at me and make me feel awful, as I've been suicidal in the past and this has been making me feel like that again so my other friend stuck...
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Anonymous asked: I broke up w my ex a year ago. I didn't love him, it was an unhealthy relationship, & it was the only answer & I was immediately relieved when I told him. But I still think about him and I don't know why. I don't want to date him. I suppose I miss the good times but thinking about them makes me uncomfortable. We don't talk & I'm happy w that. But I'm...
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Anonymous asked: I know I don't *need* a relationship, but I miss the closeness and the different kind of relationship of dating someone. And sex. But I can't meet anyone right now for a variety of reasons. Ugh, I suppose I just needed to vent. You're awesome.
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Friendly reminder that taking a sick day for your mental health day is just as legitimate as taking a sick day for the flu!
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Anonymous asked: I am super insecure about myself. I literally cannot even post personal things on tumblr, even. I just have this fear of being judged or disliked or just thought stupid. I feel like a waste of space. I feel like I can't be myself at all so I don't know what I'm like.
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Anonymous asked: My first real bf (we were together for over a year) broke up with me 4 months ago because I kept getting jealous (low self esteem) and putting stress on him. We basically went straight to being "just friends" and we are still very close. He recently asked me if we would still be friends if he started dating someone. He says he w still care about him and I'm not at all comfortable...
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I know that right now it feels like nothing is ever going to get better, but I hope you give the world the opportunity to prove you wrong. Because, the world certainly doesn’t owe you anything, and it will punch you in the face a lot, but it’s also full of reasons to live (like late-night laughter, greasy diner breakfasts, quiet walks, starry nights, marathoning tv shows, a comfy bed,...
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Anonymous asked: I'm potentially moving in the fall & I'll need to walk & bike a lot to get to the train/bus station which I don't mind it's just that I'm completely out of shape & I want to get in better shape by then. So say I move in four months & I start riding my bike now, would I be in better shape by that time & I wouldn't be exhausted with jelly legs after...
March 2013
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Anonymous asked: I'm in one of those relationships where I put way more effort in than they do. It's not because we aren't interested in each other, it's more that i'm basically more of a giver and he's gotten to comfortable with me treating him like i'm his mom. By that I mean providing him with money, food, support, motivation etc with no support back. How can I bring this up...
