February 2012
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Get moving. Get outside. It's good for your self...
I’m not talking going to the gym and lifting or running for four hours on the treadmill. I’m talking about getting outside and walking, running, skipping, jogging, shuffling, or laying in the grass. Unplug, shut off your phone (but keep in on you in case of mutant dog attack) and just walk. Be amazed at how lucky you are that you have this body that walks and breathes and moves and...
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Anonymous asked: I think I might be bi... I honestly don't know what to do. It could be just be a phase right?
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Anonymous asked: ive just turned 16 and never had a boyfriend. will i ever find someone that i like enough to be in a relationship with?
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Anonymous asked: Is it normal to feel really nervous about having sex? I really, really want to but it's so extremely personal & I am a very private person so it kind of freaks me out. Sometimes I just want to say the hell with it & just do it and move on but I'll regret it later if I did. I don't know. Is that normal?
Anonymous asked: If I message you, can you answer it privately? I need to ask something but it's too long for the ask box & I'd rather not have it on the main page either.
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Anonymous asked: I always feel like shit after working out - being hungry and exhausted and all - thus, I never stick to it long enough to enjoy the benefits. I'm over 200 lbs so these benefits are a long time away.I'm tired of being overweight, but feeling like crap for the next year or so doesn't seem worth it. It's almost like a "Damned if you do; damned if you don't"...
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Anonymous asked: I'm 18, & when I was a kid I tried to tell my mom about a boy I liked. She teased me so much that I felt ashamed of my feelings, and I've never talked about boys with her since. Now I'm in college and finding that I'm rarely, if ever, attracted to boys and am terrified of intimacy. I don't know if I am struggling with my sexuality and may be graysexual or if I'm...
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Anonymous asked: I don't know what's wrong with me... My friend gets a lot of attention from people and I feel worthless. People love her and I just feel like people hate me. I guess I'm just jealous of her but asdhjk I feel worthless. What should I do?
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Anonymous asked: I can't shake these suicidal thoughts. I don't know how to be a real person anymore. I don't know how to live anymore. I want to feel whole, but all I feel is empty, and it's been going on for too long, and I'm so tired. I don't know what's wrong with me.
Anonymous asked: I've seen quite a few of your self-esteem images floating around Pinterest. Just thought you might like to know they're pretty popular there :) I keep seeing them on health/motivational boards. DFTBA.
Anonymous asked: You don't have to answer this as this can be personal. But what's your opinion on the Republican candidates?
noplaceforalonewolf asked: To the t-shirts and jeans anon: there is NOTHING hotter than t-shirts and jeans :) but Liz is so right about personality... every single day I meet tons of people who look great and have absolutely nothing behind that vacant stare.
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Anonymous asked: Is it normal to think about suicide on a daily basis? I don't intend to end my life and I don't want to, but I've had these thoughts for about a year. Is it normal? I'm a teenager.
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Anonymous asked: I've always been naturally thin. I never dieted or exercised. But a few months ago, I lost a few pounds due to stress. Oddly enough, this weight loss made me feel powerful, and now, I want to keep going. I am 96 pounds, and I want to see how I would look if I actually tried. Is it normal to feel this way?
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Anonymous asked: I decided to stop trying to pull off a feminine appearance. I stashed away all my jewelry and wear only t-shirts and jeans. I’m tired of trying to be pretty because it never works. However, whenever I’m getting ready to leave the house, I ponder how I’m going to impress boys. It’s entirely hypocritical and really wish I would stop.
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You want to be happy?
Stop caring what other people think. Go to school for what you want, work where you want, follow your dreams, be embarrassing in public, love who you want, fuck who you want, have whatever type of relationship you want, absolutely indulge in your ridiculous, nerdy, geeky passions.
Mix it all up with a big bucket of love for yourself (go to that mirror naked and say, hello, sailor!) and out comes...
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Anonymous asked: My parents quietly disapprove of my sexuality as a lesbian, and I know if I did choose to pursue a relationship with someone of the same-sex, it is certain to cause serious rifts in the family. I am not really religious, but I feel like to avoid the disapproval of those who are religious, I should just be single and not 'act' on my feelings. I've never been in a relationship before...
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Anonymous asked: have you ever been hurt in the gym?
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Anonymous asked: How do you love yourself? Does citing positive affirmations to yourself regularly really help?
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B and I are doing a 30 day challenge
Join us if you’d like. Instead of it being an extreme push for 30 days, it’s integrating our fitness into our lives better, instead of letting it overwhelm our lives. This is a lifestyle for us and it always has been, but it’s easy to get obsessed. We have day jobs, friendships, B has a girlfriend and I have a blog (shh, this isn’t sad).
So this is to keeping it balanced,...
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Anonymous asked: Last night I was with a group of people playing truth or dare, and I got dared to kiss my best friend, so I did. I have a boyfriend, but the kiss was nothing. It had no sparks, no nothing. But I've been with my boyfriend so long (over a year) that I'm starting to question if I should date other people or not. I love my boyfriend, but I just don't want to make the wrong choice or...
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Anonymous asked: i really hope you answer this question! I'm a freshman in college and i guess im adjusting to the real world and boys. Im really having trouble "talking" to a guy without laughing at everything, im not sure if i do it cus im nervous, but i dont try to be flirtatious. also i feel like i have nothing to talk to them about but smile and laugh, any advice on how i can make guy friends...
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Anonymous asked: I feel unwanted, useless, and everyone secretly hates me. I just want to die. Im a self-harmer and anorexic. I have a bmi of 17.4 and i starve myself quite often. None of my friends ever notice my cuts, and the same with my parents. They never notice me not eating too. I'm actually thinking about cutting myself soon..
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Anonymous asked: I think my ask got eaten a while ago so im going to ask again: Im a junior in highschool. In middle school I had a best friend we were really close and then we got into a fight and stopped being friends. Now I see her everywhere. shes gorgeous, she's loosing weight healthily, shes loved by all her friends, and i can't help being jealous! I don't know what to do :( Another thing is,...
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Anonymous asked: I know what I have to do but I'm so scared to do it. I have this deep ingrained fear of rejection &/or disappointment from friends, family since I was very young. & I don't know how to make it go away. Am I just not ready to do what I need to do? I'm so confused.
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Anonymous asked: How can I get my mom to stop trying to guilt trip me into exercising? I don't want to! I'm 20 years old! I just can't be bothered with it. She keeps bringing it up even when I repeatedly tell her nicely & not so nicely that I do not care & I just want to be left alone & not talk about it! Now she's trying to use me for herself for motivation to lose weight,...
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Anonymous asked: I want to be a vegetarian, because I don't like it when animals are killed needlessly when I could eat other alternative forms of meat. But I have two problems: my family incorporates meat into a lot of the food we eat and it would be seen as rude if we don't eat it. My other problem is that my eating is not healthy - I tend to restrict food intake, leading me to be underweight - so...
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Anonymous asked: Be for I go for a jog/work out what's the best thing to eat? I was thinking something light but still enough to give me energy like a protein shake?
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Anonymous asked: How do I use a different last name without having to go through all the paperwork & such to legally change it if I don't want to? I know many actors/musicians go by different names but how does it work? I'm going to be an artist & I'd like to go by a different last name.
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Anonymous asked: Are there people out there anymore who want to get married & stay married for life? It just seems like everyone gets married & divorces a year or less after. I see these old couples who've been married for 40+ years & they've had ups & downs but they stuck it out & still love each other. I feel like I'm the only one who really wants that kind of marriage. Call me...
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Anonymous asked: Is it too late to change yourself? To be better, to be the best that you can be?
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Anonymous asked: I'm a sophomore. I'm still friends with some of my middle school friends, and lately my two best middle school friends have been worrying me. By guy friend started having sex w/ his gf and is now cheating on her, and we've been drifting. He talks about how he "doesn't understand why we don't talk" but never bothers to contact me or tell me what's going on....
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Anonymous asked: I'm 15 and plenty of people assure me that I'm lovely on the inside and out, which finally I'm beginning to accept. I've had issues with self-esteem most of my life and I'm starting to improve on this though I'm still an awkward mess a lot of the time. Silly as it sounds, I feel that even though people tell me I will, I feel like I'll never be able to connect...
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Anonymous asked: For valentine's day, I went on a date with a guy that I'm interested in and we got to really know each other during the dinner. He walked me back to my residence hall on campus and opened the door for me. I told him I had to tell him something so he would move his face to the side & I kissed him on the cheek.. but he hasn't really said anything to me about it.. I don't know...
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Anonymous asked: Is it normal to fear being pregnant? I want to have a baby one day but then I think of actually creating & growing a new life, I panic. I suppose it's a bit irrational but I don't know...I probably shouldn't have kids if I'm that scared??
aheart2 said: Well I agree that both are objectifying. The old adage is still very true: sex sells. They are just trying to sell a product. But I believe women are smart enough to know that they don’t have to give sex because someone buys them a gift.
Absolutely, women do know...
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Anonymous asked: I usually try to think that within each conflict, no single side is at fault. That being said, I occassionally get some flack from people whom I'm not particularly on friendly terms with even though I did nothing (consciously, at least) to instigate such behavior. While this doesn't lower my self esteem, it bother me because I'd like to correct the problem if I had some part in...
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Anonymous asked you:
How is the teleflora commercial any different than women ogling the David Beckham commercial?
This is probably going to take up some space so I’m making a post out of it. I’m assuming you’re referring to this post of mine.
Here is my personal opinion on the subject.
The David Beckham commercial is gratuitous sex appeal used to promote a product....
justfivemore replied to your post: What are you doing for valentine’s day?
ME TOO high fives
Anonymous asked: What are you doing for valentine's day?
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Anonymous asked: So, personal fitness is a requirement for graduation at our school, but I'm really self conscious, especially about my self harm scars. Most of my scars are words like ugly and failure, so it's pretty obvious. I asked my friend and she said that we all change in front of each other, and there's no stalls, or anything to hide my body. I don't want anyone to see them, least of...
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Anonymous asked: I think I want to be a musician. I'm afraid my friends will laugh and not take me seriously and I'm even more afraid that my parents will want me to focus on school. I'm the most afraid that I won't be good enough. What do I do?
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Anonymous asked: I have this friend whos family has pretty much disowned him, and they betrayed him for choices he made a long time ago, and things he has already apologized for and fixed, that didn't even INVOLVE them. His mom was pregnant, and they didn't even tell him when she had the baby. He didn't know that he now had a brother. How messed up is that?! and I have no way to help him! He is...
Anonymous asked: If this isn't allowed here please just ignore this!---- I was wondering if anyone knew where a good place to buy wigs from online? I need a wig till my hair grows out but I don't know what sites are legit. I'm looking for natural & unnatural colors. Thanks!
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Anonymous asked: I am so fucking sad. My boyfriend of two years broke up with me a few days ago. We decided that we will continue to be best friends. But I still can't believe that we really are broken up. One minute I am okay and telling myself that "I can do this" and then the next second, I can't keep from crying and wondering why this happened. I tell myself that I can do this and that...
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Anonymous asked: I went into college directly after high school. I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to do for a living, but my parents wanted me to go to college ASAP. The program I chose was incredibly interesting. I made a lot of friends and experienced good things. Unfortunately, the career wasn't for me and its embarrassing when people ask "why aren't you working at a _____ then?" I...
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In defense of food
I’ve posted before about how I love food and I love that it’s a family and cultural bond. I bake a lot, but I don’t eat a lot of what I bake, and that sucks. If you think it sucks too, there are things you can do!
In my cupcakes, when it calls for eggs, I split it 50/50. Half the amount of real eggs, half egg beaters/egg whites. Half the sugar with stevia or use fruit which...
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Anonymous asked: I have a dilemma. I study best when I'm upstairs alone in my quiet room, where there's a desk and chair. I can often work long hours. But the rest of my family are downstairs and I feel bad for not being there with them, especially if anyone's alone downstairs. I've tried working downstairs, but it's hard to because it's quite loud, and there is no desk and chair. How...
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Anonymous asked: My mom (only) is going to live in North Carolina for business purposes, and we live in Cali. She asked if I wanted to move with her since my dad wouldn't properly be able to take care of my since he's busy ALL the time. I'm actually very tempted to say yes since I only have one friend and my life feels pretty boring and dull. I'm only hesitating cause' I don't want to...