Anonymous said: I have depression, as well as cripplingly low self-esteem, to the point where I hardly ever leave the house, except for school and church, to avoid being seen by others. My therapist tells me that I should, every morning and every night, tell myself things I like about myself. The problem is, I can't think of anything I like about myself, inside or out. I hate myself and looking in the mirror makes me break down and cry. Whenever someone compliments me I think of excuses to not believe it. Help?
Stop thinking of surface compliments! Compliment your own ability to push through the depression and keep getting up every day. Seriously, just getting out of bed is something to be proud of! You woke up and that can be built on. Compliment your ability to see the beauty in other people, that you were kind to someone at church, that you worked hard in a class. Even if you don’t believe it, say it. Eventually work up to complimenting your body/hair/face - again, even if you don’t believe it, say it anyway. Surprisingly, faking it till you make it can work in this situation. If you keep telling yourself how freaking fabulous you are, you’ll create those neural pathways in your brain.
Do things that make you proud of yourself. Do good deeds. Work on art, even if it isn’t great. Write, read, watch movies, write screenplays, dance, do things that you can say, ‘hey, I made that!’ about.
*Also, keep up going to counseling and working hard in your therapy sessions!